When your matron of honor lets you down, what should you do? Mystic Myndee uses the Seven of Pentacles tarot card to explore friendship, expectations, and wedding planning.
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Seven of Pentacles: Navigating Wedding Party Friendships
Matron of honor problems can make wedding planning unexpectedly stressful, especially when expectations and friendships collide. In this installment of Ask the Mystic, New Orleans tarot reader Mystic Myndee explores the Seven of Pentacles and shares guidance on navigating wedding party disagreements, communicating with loved ones, and protecting the relationships that matter most.
Dear Mystic Myndee,
I’ve made some plans for my wedding recently and my matron of honor decided that something else is more important than the wedding plans I made. We just started planning for our wedding and I’m worried that my matron of honor doesn’t have our best interests in mind.
Signed,
Nervous in Nola
Dear Nervous,
First off, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Celebrating love is one of the most joyous things we can do in this life, and it deserves to be honored with care, intention, and the people who support you most.
Relationships can be tricky to navigate, and though a beautiful occasion, wedding planning can be stressful.
It has a way of bringing both the best and the most tender parts of our relationships to the surface. Your wedding party is your krewe, and you want them there for the big moments, and some of the small ones too. Whatever the situation, it would hurt if one of your krewe members didn’t show up. We all know life happens, and maybe this is a one-off, but if you are concerned that a celebrated member of your bridal party doesn’t have your best interest in mind, it may be time to pull back and evaluate the relationship with curiosity rather than assumption.
It’s your relationship, not the situation, that needs attention. That’s where I focused my energy when pulling your Tarot card.
The Card: Seven of Pentacles
The Seven of Pentacles indicates hard work, patience, and your investments paying off over time rather than all at once. It takes a leap of faith to plant a seed and trust that your efforts will yield fruit. As you can see from the illustration, she has put in the work and it’s paying off tenfold.
How to Handle Matron of Honor Problems with Communication
Are you both putting forth the kind of effort needed to maintain a close relationship? Is she a big part of your life outside the wedding planning? Have you had any conversations with her about your concerns, or have you been holding these feelings close to your chest?
As illustrated in the Seven of Pentacles, investments take time to pay off. An apple can take more than ten years to go from seed to succulent harvest.
In that time, the tree needs sunlight, water, and soil to develop and grow. Perhaps this relationship needs additional care or attention in order to truly take root and flourish. That might look like an honest conversation, a moment of understanding, or even simply giving each other the benefit of the doubt.
And then there are times where, in spite of all the right conditions, the tree will not mature, and it is no longer worth investing in. Only you know where you are. Only you can decide if you trust this person to be there for you, for your wedding, and beyond.
This is where you have the opportunity to lean into your intuition. There is wisdom in both continuing to nurture a relationship and in recognizing when it may no longer be aligned.
But I will say, more often than not, with communication and understanding, someone you would consider a matron of honor is a worthwhile investment. These kinds of relationships are often built over time, and are full of joyful memories, painful mishaps, love, and grace.
I’ll leave you with this: no matter what arises during the planning, the magic of your wedding is to honor and celebrate the bond between you and your future spouse. Everything else has a way of working itself out as it is meant to.
Warmest Wishes,
Mystic Myndee
Born and raised in New Orleans, Mystic Myndee is an author and tarot reader with over seven years of experience reading at events across the south. Her work blends intuition, storytelling, and a grounded, compassionate approach. She enjoys helping others reconnect with their inner knowing and find magic in their everyday life. With a background in wedding photography, she brings a natural understanding of people, emotion, and the rhythm of weddings and other meaningful celebrations. A little bit Dear Abby, a little bit mystic, her advice is thoughtful, grounded, and always a little bit magical.
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